Thanks for taking the time to explain - that does make a lot of sense, if you coisider being trans or gay a learned/chosen behaviour. That hadn’t crossed my mind, which is why the premise seemed impossible to me. The difference, of course, between being gay and being a gambler is that nobody is born a gambler, therefore the comparison doesn’t really hold up. That’s why I used the creationism example: Carbon-14 is what it is. LGBT people are who they are. They didn’t choose to be that way any more that C-14 chose its decay rate. I suppose that doesn’t matter all that much in practice - if more people thought like you rather than being homo- or transphobic, the world would undoubtedly be a better place than it is.
I disagree. You can have two people from the same upbringing and one becomes addicted to gambling and the other doesn’t. So there’s absolutely a predisposition toward addictions, which is why some people struggle a lot more than others at breaking bad habits.
My views on transexuality are a bit different though. I don’t think the issue is necessarily that some AFAB person is actually a man and biology/God got it wrong, I think the issue is that people feel more comfortable with a given set of social norms that may not match the social norms of their sex. This doesn’t have to be a conscious decision either, they can just feel uneasy with things and blame their sex, but really the issue is society not matching their mental model of themselves. For those people, sex changes and/or hormone therapy can be the most effective solution, because changing society is much more difficult than changing how you present. I’ve even heard some people can change how they present from day to day because they’re feeling like they align more to one or the other extreme that day.
I suppose that doesn’t matter all that much in practice
Agreed 100%. Whether non-binary genders (or genders at all) are an actual thing or a social construct doesn’t really matter, what matters is love and acceptance.
Does calling someone by their preferred gender cost you anything? No. Does arguing semantics about whether what they’re experiencing is innate or a subconscious processing of societal norms help? No. Just accept people for who they claim to be if it doesn’t harm anyone.
And yeah, I think homo- and trans- phobias are stupid. We’re all just people, so treat each other with respect and fight for each other to get whatever they need go feel loved and accepted.
Thanks for taking the time to explain - that does make a lot of sense, if you coisider being trans or gay a learned/chosen behaviour. That hadn’t crossed my mind, which is why the premise seemed impossible to me. The difference, of course, between being gay and being a gambler is that nobody is born a gambler, therefore the comparison doesn’t really hold up. That’s why I used the creationism example: Carbon-14 is what it is. LGBT people are who they are. They didn’t choose to be that way any more that C-14 chose its decay rate. I suppose that doesn’t matter all that much in practice - if more people thought like you rather than being homo- or transphobic, the world would undoubtedly be a better place than it is.
I disagree. You can have two people from the same upbringing and one becomes addicted to gambling and the other doesn’t. So there’s absolutely a predisposition toward addictions, which is why some people struggle a lot more than others at breaking bad habits.
My views on transexuality are a bit different though. I don’t think the issue is necessarily that some AFAB person is actually a man and biology/God got it wrong, I think the issue is that people feel more comfortable with a given set of social norms that may not match the social norms of their sex. This doesn’t have to be a conscious decision either, they can just feel uneasy with things and blame their sex, but really the issue is society not matching their mental model of themselves. For those people, sex changes and/or hormone therapy can be the most effective solution, because changing society is much more difficult than changing how you present. I’ve even heard some people can change how they present from day to day because they’re feeling like they align more to one or the other extreme that day.
Agreed 100%. Whether non-binary genders (or genders at all) are an actual thing or a social construct doesn’t really matter, what matters is love and acceptance.
Does calling someone by their preferred gender cost you anything? No. Does arguing semantics about whether what they’re experiencing is innate or a subconscious processing of societal norms help? No. Just accept people for who they claim to be if it doesn’t harm anyone.
And yeah, I think homo- and trans- phobias are stupid. We’re all just people, so treat each other with respect and fight for each other to get whatever they need go feel loved and accepted.