The Grace Hopper Celebration is meant to unite women in tech. This year droves of men came looking for jobs.

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    ITT: men who can’t ever admit they might be the problem. So many excuses here it’s pathetic.

    edit: I love the “not all men” and “not me”. As always, it’s not all men. But it’s enough. And the men here getting so defensive really prove the point. And before anyone gets into it, it’s not really the sex or gender. It’s the societal expectations and allowances that encourage men to engage in abusive shit like we see in the article here. I.e. the patriarchy and those who support it.

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      1 year ago

      Can you expound on that statement?

      It sounds as if the organizers were too quick to take the $650 from attendees and those willing to pay were very eager to pony up the cash in the hope of networking.

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        1 year ago

        The attendees should be able to tell that they would be intruding even if the organization didn’t bother to check that. Both were in the wrong.

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          How would they separate those intruding and those who the event was made for? Seems like a hard issue to solve

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            It’s almost like women are disfavored in the tech industry and this is an attempt to make up for that.

            Can you stop staring at your own navel for even a second, Bob?

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        It’s abusive to invade women’s spaces as a man looking to take advantage. Stay out.

        Oh look, you’re all up in this thread a day late posting his horrid takes.

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          Well, it seems to be considered abusive to have a men’s space at all, and if there is one, women are downright encouraged to invade it.

          The horrid tale is hating men for trying to get a job.

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      Problem for what?

      I exist, I need a job to live, I have job, I try my best not to be an asshole, I fight (and vote) for a better society, for social and civil rights.

      Why exactly I - since I am a man I feel included in your statement - should be THE problem?

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        I try my best not to be an asshole

        Maybe people are getting too in the weeds with this because muh culture war

        But it is an asshole move to show up to an event meant for one group of people when the original issue is how over represented your group is. I’m a developer. The grind sucks. But I would be an asshole to show up to this.

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          I would be an asshole to show up to this.

          That’s the part I really don’t get. If you’re cis male looking for a job, do you really think crashing this event is going to reflect favorably on you and that you’d be more likely to land a job? People are going to look at you and think that you have good judgment and won’t be a problem at all? What the heck is the thought process that makes this a good plan?

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            I assume most tech bros have a mental form of tinnitus going on in their brains in lieu of thoughts. Just a constant bzzzzzzzzzz

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          But it is an asshole move to show up to an event meant for one group of people when the original issue is how over represented your group is. I’m a developer. The grind sucks. But I would be an asshole to show up to this.

          If I was out of job, I would honestly care less about the fact that “my group” is over represented. There is no white male lobby that pays my mortgage. That said, I - as in the actual me - would not go to such event either, but that’s also because I wouldn’t go to any job fair atm since I don’t need a job.

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            I would honestly care less about the fact that

            Sure, that’s what makes people behave like assholes. “I don’t care about X” is why we have a pretty shitty world in many areas.

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              This is pure rhetoric, I can flip the argument:

              “You care more about the gender than about my material condition.”

              Also, the moment I need to let prevail abstract concepts over my material condition (i.e., caring about “my group” being over represented while I am out of a job) is the moment in which the class unity is broken. Me and those women who are out of a job have so much in common that there is no reason for me to consider us part of two separate groups. That’s the whole point of my argument, I advocate for worker solidarity and I absolutely feel that this attitude is overall harmful for it.

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                I don’t agree. I can be at a disadvantage and still accept that another group has even greater disadvantages that I would continue or make worse by stepping into something they built. Its freeloading in a pretty assholish way. I’m not just some animal trying to get a nut with narrow focus that says fuck everything else. I can job search and find my own opportunities without freeloading