i really don’t like erratic behavior, defensive behavior, or people who act off in any way (in a bad way) but someone said i was ableist for this.
like someone got upset bc i said a character was handsome and they said “why do u like the character bc theyre handsome when u dont know the character” and i never said i knew them. or that i liked them. i just found them handsome from the photo.
Generally no, but it depends on how you handle the interaction.
This whole situation seems a bit odd and I can’t help but feel like we’re not really getting the full picture. But at a surface level, if someone takes what is really just a misunderstanding or miscommunication and turns that into a character assassination against you without giving you the chance to explain yourself, that is not something you should feel obligated to just accept.
But it depends a lot of how you handle it. If you just take the opportunity to fire back and make this a “them” problem, knowing they have some mental disability that could have caused them to misread the situation, that would be ableist.
What you could do is simply respond along the lines of “I can understand why you’d feel this way if what you believe is true, but I think I didn’t explain myself clearly, and that’s on me.”