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The Futurium is a quite cool new Museum. Located close to the Hauptbahnhof (Berlin Main Station). Its for free. Its a Museum about the future with lots of interesting stuff on for example future of medicine, future of transport and so on. It has a positive view on many topics even though it of course adresses also the problems. Just super cool and very interactive.

I dont agree with the people saying its impossible. It does take time and efford but its not impossible. I know a couple, together for about 10years at the time where he not only cheated but then even broke up to be with the other woman. It didnt last long. After about 2 years the original couple came back together - it was a slow transition of meeting because of the Child, meeting AS friends etc. It was very hard in the beginning. They did a therapy for couples which helped a lot, but still sometimes she would make a comment on the matter even a few years later. But It got less with time. By now its gone. They are one of the happiest couples i know with more trust in each other than i have Seen in other couples. Because it was an active decision to stay AS a couple. Because they had to speak a lot about their relationship after that event and went on doing so, what many couples stop with time. And the therapy surely hepled with that process. I dont know how Bad your case is. If a therapy is needed and how openly you discuss your feelings. But try to signal your wife how much this event showed you that you want her - of course only if the case. And decide together how you can fix things that lead to this event. Maybe do one date per week Where you take time AS a couple. Or one hour per week to discuss how your relationship is going what you liked what you didnt like in the Past week. Sometimes it will only take 10min and sometimes you’ll need the hour… I think something in that direction could help a lot and just proposing it shows your wife you want to change.

I also have a friend who had an older dad. They had a very good relationship. Lots of good memories. The only time this friend mentioned that the age gap was hard, was when their dad died quiet suddenly at the age of 80, when my friend was only 21. An age were you still rely on your parents more than you would like to admit. The friend was sad that his father didn’t met their new partner and didn’t see their career. But apart from that my friend was very happy to actually have a dad.

Here’s my point. I have a couple of friends that grew up without dads. They didn’t care about their child when the relationship ended. I also have 2 friends whose young parents died when my friends where in their twenties due to diseases.

So I don’t see why you shouldn’t be happy about your child and have a good life. Sure you might me available to them shorter than other parents but that can happen to younger parents too. Also you might be lucky and get 100 years old. No one knows. With a loving dad your kid will have more than other kids.

Just try to go with the time a bit or at least not to judge the new times to hard. My mum never was good with computers and smartphones and instead of admiring us “children” (i am adult) for what we can use them for, she’s often complaining about us using them. No matter whether its for learning a language, reading newspaper or playing games. Things like that might occur more often when you have an larger age gap but when you are aware you can fix it easily.

Not only in School, even at university I was taught the DNA structure was solved by Watson und Crick. But they stole data from Rosalind franklin and even openly admitted it years later.

For me, there are several very different good reasons. I write Them down in order they come to my mind not from imoortant to less important or vice versa.

1. i dont want to be judged before met in Person

What do companies do before they hire you, banks that you ask for money etc. They look you up in the net before they meet you. Think they know you. No Chance to present yourself as you want it. Yes you can polish your social media but not all the hidden profiles they made of you…

2. stalking

i once studied in a different country. Had 3 dates with someone i only realized then is weird and kindly ended dating. Then this person was stalking me for a year and only stopped thx to the police intervening after a lot of efford from my side. Luckily the person only had my email and phone contact and new which city I came from. I was SO glad Ive never been much on social media and stuff… Cause this person would have come to my hometown, waiting in front of my university or whatever - even wrote so. But couldn’t find out. Most of my friends back then had their address / favorite bars / university courses favorites places and everythign in the net. I was so scared back then i would have changed my entire life to be sure not to Meet this Person. Luckily i didnt have to cause my life was private. If you think stalking is very rare and you will not be affected look up the numbers. Its horryfying. For woman especially but also men. People dont talk about it but During that time when speaking to friends i suddenly knew 5 other people who had to deal with it already. Also nowadays these apps exist were you can take a picture of someone and search for that face in the Internet… A stranger can do that and find all your photos/ social media etc and be there in your favorite bar every nicht… Scary.

3. data is power.

On the " i have nothing to hide" thing. Think of Google maps. They dont care where you go at all but by knowing where everyone goes they can predict traffic, give u alternative routes and theoretically they could also causetrafficb jams… :D while maps is useful they can do the same with any information. they are not interested in your political views but by knowing everyones political views they can predict and also direct them. This isnt theoretical its used in elections already. There was a scandal a few years ago about brexit ithinlk.

4. i like to have control about myself

Sometimes i might even agree to share some data for something else but i am forced to it all the time and i have no control whats done with the data to whom its sold next etc. But its still my personal data …

5. governments/ laws change

Well i am german, actually from an eastgerman family. If my family teached me anything its that political systems can change very easily. My greatgrandparents, my grandparents, my Parents and i grew up in 4 different political systems, well actually 5 :D. Every system of those had different views of who is good and Bad And it was better they dont know everything about you…