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  • aldalire@lemmy.dbzer0.comtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.worldEx-Incels, how did you dig yourself out?
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    4 months ago

    Taking martial arts classes (specifically for me, Brazilian jiu jitsu). Coincidentally i met my current girlfriend there, but you shouldn’t expect to meet women there. Rather, it’s a way to stop thinking about women for two hours. I realized that back then my mind was constantly thinking non-stop if i’m attractive to women, what women like, how i can get one, etc. It’s those thought loops that make interaction so painful.

    Literally anything that can get your mind off of women. Hot take; I wouldn’t advise going to a gym though, because still then you’re thinking about how to become more attractive by becoming fit. The goal is to work out to take your mind off things. Martial arts is perfect for this: you physically work out, and your mind is focused on your opponent.


  • One of the things that can get annoying about searxng is that often search engines will rate limit if a lot of people are using one searxng instance. Maybe a “federated” approach would be, if results are rate limited -> send query to another trusted searx instance -> receive the results and send back to user. That way, people can stick to their favorite searxng instance without having to manually change their instance if the search engines were rate limiting.


  • One of the things that can get annoying about searxng is that often search engines will rate limit if a lot of people are using one searxng instance. Maybe a “federated” approach would be, if results are rate limited -> send query to another trusted searx instance -> receive the results and send back to user. That way, people can stick to their favorite searxng instance without having to manually change their instance if the search engines were rate limiting.


  • My hot take is that racist bullies should be able to be punched/physically retaliated against by their victims without their victims being punished. When you take away the one avenue to retaliate against bullies when the schools never help, you breed more resentment and quiet anger and enables the bullies when the victims get punished from self defense.

    That way, the kids will quickly learn how to be respectful of other kids’ race.

    A couple bruises far from the stomach (a filipino saying) won’t kill anyone.