ADHD advocate, former certified peer recovery specialist (specializing in suicide ideation when comorbid with neurodivergence.)

I don’t usually pay attention to whichever instance I’ve drifted into from all, so if you see me in a weird place, that’s why!

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  • toxic positivity

    Oof, you’re not joking. There was a community somewhere else on the internet who was 100% about that bullshit. Some days, you just want to be able to do the fucking laundry. Or in my case, make the marinara sauce. I took meds today and I’m all focused but I’ll be damned if I can start cooking. Executive dysfunction can really fuck right off forever.

    why I’m not interested

    There’s that depression-like emptiness where once a whole-life obsession was! I’m really grateful that I’ve gotten to a point in my life where I recognize that feeling for what it is, because that helps me a lot in coping with it. “Why am I not having fun anymore?” It can be such a bleak thing, but I’m lucky enough (I recognize not everyone is!) to be able to objectively realize that’s what’s wrong with me, and now that it’s been identified, to set aside that feeling and wait for the next hyperfocus.

    You’re for sure right. There’d be less struggle. There’d be less strife. And I wish you could give it up, and be those things, and not have to kill yourself to do basic, normal things every day. But I think I’d keep it.

    Hey, thanks for the conversation. If you ever need an accountability person, my DMs are open!




  • I found mansplain on Merriam Webster, and also on Wikipedia. The Merriam Webster article says “of a man,” and the wikipedia article says “for a man” at the start.

    Usually for these things I’d be all for abolishing the gendered nature of the word, but I feel like it would dilute the original meaning. So if anything, instead of gender-normalizing ‘mansplain,’ I think we need to add ‘womansplain,’ which is something I’m very guilty of doing to my partner whenever he’s cooking because I keep forgetting that it’s something he does very well.

    But also, my reply still has merit here, because that individual was obviously weaponizing ‘mansplain’ to try and gender me, a woman, when what they likely wanted to convey was that they found me condescending. They shouldn’t be appropriating a gendered word to say something else they mean, so… uh. Sorry for all the extra words. I took my ADHD medication today and language discussion fascinates me.







  • ‘Mansplaining’ requires the explaining person to be a man.

    You’re entitled to having an opinion. You’re allowed to share that opinion. You aren’t entitled to people stopping to tell you why they think you’re wrong. Nobody owes you the time to stop and explain things to you.

    And receiving downvotes doesn’t necessarily mean someone thinks you’re wrong. It could just be that you’re being needlessly antagonistic. An example of this, is how I’m removing my sympathy upvotes to your previous comments. You obviously didn’t need my sympathy.