You can just vent if you want, but here’s more context: We’re playing a DnD oneshot soon, and the theme is toxic masculinity (particularly in a gym). We’re all playing dudes who visited the gym for a long time already. I already have some ideas for my character, but I want to collect some more stories of toxic masculinity, as I’m quite lucky that my bubble doesn’t have much of it.

  • Scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.techEnglish
    27·
    1 day ago

    Music was always the one for me. I couldn’t listen to that music or this music because “That’s gay bro”. It didn’t matter that I listened to a large variety, it was instilled in me that some music is okay, other stuff is not.

    One of my earliest memories was being into Britney Spears. I was young, 10 or so. Dad was never home and I learned to like my own music on my own time without him, and I liked her music. My memory is that I was listening to it in the car, my CD of hers, and then I remember mom and dad arguing, and I don’t remember ever seeing that CD again. My mom confirmed when I was an adult that dad threw it out because he didn’t want me to listen to her. Did he share any of his music with me as an alternative? No of course not, I just couldn’t listen to that.

    Now as an adult I’ve fully embraced it. I love me Led Zeppelin, Pink Floyd, Queen, and other “manly” bands (Yes I know, I chuckle too at Queen), but I’m also an avid Swifty (I even mod [email protected] ) because sometimes you just want a song that feels a bit happier, and I even took my wife to the Eras tour. I love Olivia Rodrigo because damn if we don’t all have some teenage angst sometimes, and I’ve gone back a bit to Britney too - but not as much.

    What a shame that people think that art should be subject to what they think the world is like. There is room to like many different things. Enjoying one thing doesn’t mean you dislike another thing. People can like many different things. I can enjoy A24 films while also laughing at Wil Farrell movies. None of that means that I’m this or that - humans are complex and like what we like. Thanks for reading this far :)

    • steeznson@lemmy.world
      2·
      10 hours ago

      Man, what a sad way to live their lives. I love “scaring the bros” music. Was watching Glastonbury festival on tv last weekend and the two best sets I caught were Charli XCX and Doechii.

    • CmdrShepard49@sh.itjust.works
      5·
      22 hours ago

      One of my earliest memories was being into Britney Spears. I was young, 10 or so. Dad was never home and I learned to like my own music on my own time without him, and I liked her music. My memory is that I was listening to it in the car, my CD of hers, and then I remember mom and dad arguing, and I don’t remember ever seeing that CD again.

      Its so funny to see all those guys, who called groups like Nsync and BSB “gay” back in middle school in the '90s, lose their fucking minds and start singing and dancing along when something like “Bye Bye Bye” comes on the jukebox at the bar.

      To be honest, I hated boy bands back then too but there’s definitely some nostalgia hearing them today.

      • Soapbox@lemmy.zipEnglish
        1·
        10 hours ago

        He didn’t want you listening to her music. But I bet he would have appreciated you putting a poster of her over your bed.

      • Scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.techEnglish
        2·
        21 hours ago

        Honestly I look back and put them. How many of them had similar experiences to me? That was taught to them, they didn’t make it up themselves.