Subjective situations welcome
Just ignore the bullies and they’ll stop.
Nope, they just hit you harder
In defense of this, there are situations where it’s good advice. Bullies that only use insults and social pressure are easily dealt with this way. Find a friend group with no connection to them, then ignore them to get rid of anything they can use against you. This is basically how I dealt with the people bullying me at school.
But I agree, if they do anything beyond insults and social pressure, you need some way of confronting them or leaving them entirely.
In my case ignoring insults lead to violent escallation. They wanted the reactions badly.
Some old redneck man who was a friend of a family member, who was in a failing marriage with a woman 10-15 years older than him told me “Don’t treat a woman like gold, treat her like shit and she’ll never leave you” or something to that effect. That sounded horrible even to 13 year old me.
Unfortunately it isn’t wrong it is just horrible and abusive advice. Destroying the self worth and confidence of a person can trap them in a relationship because they feel they can do no better so they stay. I feel bad for that person’s wife, I hope she ended up dumping his ass
It was my understanding they separated. In any case, dude died of cancer a few years later. Not sure about much beyond that.
Pretty much everything I was told about employment when I entered the work force (2005ish). New workers seem to have wised up a bit, seeing us go through the hoops with nothing to show for it, but all the absolute bullshit about hard work paying off, take care of your employer and your employer will take care of you, etc.
…and it’s hard to shake off that programming when you hear it your entire childhood from older folks who apparently actually did benefit from that advice.
Hearing Gen Z’ers and such say things like “act your wage” or complain about the rug being pulled out from under them without needing to stand on it for 20 years first is fucking awesome! The younger workers aren’t just bending over and taking it in the hopes things will get better someday like we did. Gen Z is going to go down as a major contributor to workers’ rights.
The flip side is that workers are getting treated worse.
I hear about people having to go through three or four rounds of job interviews, and having their social media scoured. There are fewer and fewer non-corporate jobs, and forget about a boss who pays you off the books.
Not even going to start on the fact that money is pretty worthless
They’re trying to preemptively hire people who don’t give them a hard time when they treat them like peasants. When the boss says it’s getting harder to hire means the rest of us are harder to fire. Keep up the pressure!
Anecdote
Boss says he called twenty people in for an interview at 7 am. Hired the one person who stayed until 9 pm because they showed persistence.
People in comments said he hire the person who was most desperate.
I was advised by a group therapist, when having “cold feet” about commitment in a relationship, to just think about how bad the alternative might be. She had a friend who had reservations about getting married, and then thought not getting married would be stressful too, so she went ahead with the marriage. It was terrible advice, especially from a therapist providing guidance for some very troubled people. The only good reason to commit to a relationship is because you really want it, not because you’re afraid of what will happen otherwise!
That’s shockingly bad, wow
Meditation instruction.
Even if you are noticing no results at all, just keep on doing it.
No, that’s dumb, expect results. If you aren’t getting results after a dozen times, try a different meditation technique.
From what I understand, some mental health meds take a couple weeks to see results.Reading comprehension FAIL!
The comment was about meditation, not medication ;)
Whoops!
When a trailer starts oscillating because it was loaded rear-heavy, “going full throttle will straighten it out”. It didn’t, car spun, load flew in a ditch.
The trailer did feel restless after turns, so I assumed it’ll be fine if I steer smoothly. The first 10km went okay, but then there was a downhill, and that somehow increased the instability and it went mad. Speed was constant 80km/h.
Trailer weight distribution demonstration:
https://imgur.com/gallery/trailer-weight-distribution-3PQFK7Y
or
https://www.reddit.com/r/GoRVing/comments/6xfe7x/everybody_who_tows_an_rv_should_check_out_this/
(same video clip)I used to drive a 1999 Nissan Sentra, it looked like a wreck but it got me everywhere I needed to go and was quick and cheap to repair. Everyone told me “you need to get rid of that car.” At the time I wasn’t making tons of money, but I did gain $5K in stocks suddenly during COVID-19.
I searched for “best cars for $5,000” and one of the recommendations was an Audi A3. I didn’t really know shit about cars so I went for it, and boy did I end up spending a lot more than $5K in repairs in the first few years (though luckily I started earning a lot more).
I still love the car to death, but it’s a 10 year old luxury vehicle. I still don’t trust it to get me to the next state but I don’t commute to work so it’s cheaper at this point to keep it and maintain it well rather than buy another used car (with an entirely new set of problems) or take out a huge, huge loan for an updated equivalent (the car is completely optioned out).
I also learned that with German vehicles you must, must find highly a knowledgeable mechanic that you can trust. A few times I took it to cheaper mechanic closer to home but found out 1-2 years later he didn’t actually fix the problems.
Had I simply waited another few years I probably wouldn’t have had to spend a fortune fixing the damn thing, and I’d probably be financially stable enough to actually get a better car. But I live in Los Angeles where the people I know will feel shame on my behalf due to the car I drive. 🙄
Those old Datsun Sentras were goat.
A tiny notch under the ek Civic, but just as rugged.
Half of everything my mom ever told/did for whatever ailment I had.
Also that it was easy to get a job in Brazilian IT in the early 2010s. Out of some 40 companies I’ve sent my resume to, zero called me for an interview.
When I was about to graduate high school a uncle in law told me to make sure I pick a college with a football team I’m comfortable rooting for for the rest of my life.
When I was younger, I told my therapist that I kept accidentally saying insulting things and offending my friends without realizing it. She didn’t ask for any examples and I didn’t think to give any.
She told me that my friends should understand that being homeschooled and autistic, I’m going to miss some social norms, and if I explain what I meant and ask a nicer way to put it, they’ll be able to explain.
Yeah this just made my friends really mad because I wasn’t saying anything rude, they were just picking fights. Real “I like pancakes”, “so you hate waffles?!” type conversations. It took me an embarrassingly long time to figure out why it wasn’t working.
ETA I think my sister convincing me not to go to college was worse advice, but that’s not much of a story. Spoiler I didn’t go to college.
Anything that is founded on karma or divine retribution. That shit is just diffusing accountability.
Being told to tip your head back if your nose is bleeding.
How to drown with your own blood. Whomever came up with that one definitely knew and was just pulling a prank or something
When you start investing, just put your money in and just don’t worry about it. It’ll grow. Just keep adding to it. You’ll get there.
Probably some of the dumber advice i’ve received.
You have to look at your Stocks. You have to look at your 401(k). You have to look at your investments.
Unless you like to wake up one day and discover you don’t have enough money. Then go ahead and follow that advice of just set and forget it.
The only one that might make sense with is if you’re putting your money into the S&P.
Even then, I still would pay attention to what it’s doing.
Most people aren’t talking about investing with stocks. They’re talking about mutual funds and 401ks, which will grow if you just leave them be. If you try mucking around with them you’re going to be much worse off.
Why do you look at your investments? What do you do with the information? I don’t want to predict the market and I can’t. Looking at it is more likely to make you panic buy/sell than make you do anything useful. But I’m curious why you don’t agree with the advice.
It’s a conscious effort to not panic. But once that investment goes up as far as i think it will. (I set that point before I even buy) then I sell and buy something those that is low and ride that up. If I don’t watch them, that stock could go WAY down before I realize I’ve lost anything.
If it’s gone down I have to figure out if I think it’s coming back. Then decide, cut my losses or hold out until it comes back
Okay so individual stocks then. But the advice is for index funds I think. But good on you if it works. I wouldn’t try to predict individual stocks personally, too much stress and probably won’t do it better than randomly guessing.
