No offense to old people, its just an observation I’ve made.
Young people aren’t angry? They look quite upset to (old) me, and rightfully so. I probably would be a lot more than they are, to be honest.
One remark, maybe:
The few old people around you does not represent a valid statistical sample for ‘old people’ in general. You need a lot more data.
No offense intended, maybe it’s like that because you’re living in a family that is keen on hating and insulting one another? The only thing I would feel ok to conclude from that is they may very well be dickheads, every single one of them, but that doesn’t mean all people their age are the same. Don’t generalize ;)
To help you realize how… too fast such conclusions can be made, and no doubt how wrong they can be, consider this simple observation one may want to make reading your question:
The only constant in your interactions with older people is yourself. How come you may ask? Well, they’re all different (old) people that don’t share the exact same age, sex and personality (taste and preferences), maybe they don’t even live all at the same place. Meanwhile, you’re the exact same person. You do not change and you’re not different, they are. So, if every single one of those different and older persons you meet is hating on you shouldn’t I conclude that you’re the most likely cause of their hate?
See how easy it is to come to some nutty conclusion out of mere ‘observations’?
To be perfectly clear, I 'm not saying it’s you that’s causing anything. Far from it. First, for the simple reason that I never met you and then because you probably are not the cause of anything here. Like I said, there is not enough data to conclude anything. Still it’s so easy to conclude that it’s your fault and from there that if it’s your fault it’s all younger people’s fault—it’s not ;)
To share my own personal experience, as a child (I was young, once) I knew very early on my mother hated my guts. I started by wondering why adults where such assholes towards kids up until I realized that was not ‘all adults’ nor ‘all mothers’, it was her. That unique person she was for reasons that were her own that certainly would not allow me or anyone else to generalize her behavior to all mothers.
All of that to say there could be a lot of reasons and factors unrelated to their age.
every grandparent or elderly relative always have insulting remarks about me
I have been young myself (promise I really was, and one day you will be old too) and my grand-parents never insulted me. Not once. And as an older person myself nowadays I tend to not insult… not too often ;)
The old people at my UU church seem pretty chill
It’s just the whiskey talking.
From what I’ve seen, especially since COVID, is that society has changed beyond their understanding and now a lot of things are strange and scary. Worse, a lot of the skills they should have learned to understand the present day weren’t learned for various reasons, so getting over the hump of understanding is now a lot higher than previous.
Anger is a common reaction to fear and confusion.
Being really old probably sucks. I’d be mad too.
That doesn’t justify being an entitled dickhead.
Some assholes hang around with other assholes because 1) it validates them, 2) it gives them someone to argue with,3) they have no one else because normal people cut them out of their lives
I mean… Have you looked around the world lately? What isn’t rage inducing? Now couple that with your body falling apart and feeling the pain of aging more and more the closer you get to your final days.
I met some of the nicest old people at the protest yesterday. Maybe you just have a bad sample set in your area
They were some of the most inspiring people I met yesterday. It’s great seeing people my parents age that are engaged and want to make the world a better place for their kids and grandkids.
Not wanting to rain on you, but if everyone has an issue with you I’d honestly do an introspection.
If you smell shit everywhere you go, check your shoes.
“If you run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you’re the asshole.”
- Raylan Givens
Every Old person*
My peers are fine with me. Middle-aged people also seem nice. Its just the very old (like 60+) seem to be mean all the time.
It’s probably because you’re calling people of 60+ ‘very old’, I’d tell you to piss off too! That might feel along way to you now, but age has a funny way of creeping up on you (I’m not ‘that’ old, but closer than you , going by your comments).
But to answer your question more seriously, one reason is likely that we’ve gone from a society that was generally positive & helped each other (in a local sense), to constant negative news via the mass media & social media, & I think it just grinds a lot of people down, especially those that remember the ‘before’ times. But if you focus on the good things in life, often again at a more local level, life can generally be good(ish) for most people (unless you’re being savagely attacked by an oppressive force, as seems to sadly be getting more common around the world 🙁).
Your senior aged family members just seem to suck but we only got a single sentence of detail.
Old people are not universally mean lol. Honestly it seems to me that almost every asshole I knew since a young age was an asshole in their childhood, teens, and adulthood so far. I figure that won’t change. There’s some exceptions, but it seems very hard to change personality.
Yeah, most people tend to approach things from a positive or negative default and time seems to reinforce that unless a very major life experience shakes that up.
Older folks can seem more angry than other demographics for a few reasons: pain from physical deterioration, disappointment in their life’s circumstances with fewer/no realistic opportunities to better them, people very close to them dying, worldviews that conflict with the realities of modern life, etc. It depends on the individual but pain and the whole “less unshitty time left on this earth” thing are more commonly experienced in seniors than other demographics.
But this is talking in general - to give you a useful answer, I’d want to know more about your interactions with elderly folks. Only one I saw in this thread was old folks telling you to kill yourself - it’s rare someone cold leads with that unless it’s online (the answer is always living, happily, in spite). What happens before that?
How many old people have you known?
It is very hard to be nice when you are in physical pain.
I don’t think I’ve ever seen my grandparents angry in my life.
EDIT: Honestly, my in-person experience with people who are like…70+ is that they’ve been pretty mellow. Maybe they go off and rage in private or something, but hasn’t been where I see it.
My grandparents were chill af too, even if my grandpa was a ‘serious’ man (just a sober and athletic family guy of virtue, which means I still have a long way to go, lol). But, while broke, they were also happily married, only death (shortly) separated them.
Lucky. My grandma would yell at my cat as a proxy of yelling at me 😿
As an old woman myself, I’m sorry to you and your little cat too. Sounds like you got stuck with crappy old losers. I hope you meet other old people who treat you nicer.
I am angry a lot, but it’s because as a kid I thought the world was getting better, more tolerant and caring etc. and instead it keeps getting worse, more fascistic and hateful and filthy and destroyed. Every time we take a step forward we get smacked down backwards about six. It’s exhausting. But we do still have to keep trying to take those positive steps every day.
Some of this is because they’re living with pain. Your body breaks down as you get older. Some of it is Fox News brainwashing.
Keep in mind that 51% of voters 65 and older voted for Trump. That percentage for 18- to 29-year-olds is 47%. That gap is very small.
Don’t forget decades of interacting with toxic aerosols like lead oxide.
After my parents retired and had a lot more time to be home and just have Fox News on all the time in the background they defo moved more to the right. They can’t defend their positions without resorting to fox news talking points or “all policies are the same” or “you just have to protect yourself from the government”.
My sister and I are deviated that we’ve lost them to propaganda.
Nah it’s not. I’ve been living with chronic back pain every day for 20 years and it hasn’t made me cranky. I have definitely lost some patience with blatant stupidity and what other people think, but my default interaction mode is ‘be chill and get along with everyone’.
I’ve been living with chronic back pain for years as well. And I definitely get short sometimes when I’m in pain. It makes me tired and cranky sometimes and takes its toll. I have asked my family to remind me when I’m acting like a “grumpy old man”.
Sure, in bad moments I get short-tempered like anyone else in pain, I more meant generally speaking. I’m not cranky all the time by any means, even though I hurt all the time.
If every interaction you’ve had is bad, look for the common denominator
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Alternatively, you can find purpose in trying to be a little better version of yourself every day.
Or maybe, you should take that criticism and have a fair look at yourself and how you can change for the better, instead of immediately overreacting and trying to be a coward and run from your problems.
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A damn fine roast you threw together there
Brooooo lmao
oh SNAP
Lmao that explains so much about them
Now I’m imagining you modlog checking every commenter here lol
I wouldn’t take most ban reasons at face value. He could be a pedo, or could have pointed out a law for clarification and the worst possible motivation was assumed.
Especially when there isn’t a removed comment or anything for context.
You’re going to get banned for pedophilia apology with a reasoned opinion like that one.
Probably.
